The 7 deadly sins

Well, I have been away for some time and while I have a genuine reason for it, I'm not really happy that I had to hit the pause button on my blog. I couldn't help it then(had exams :( ) and can't help it now( just have to get back to blogging :) ).

Its kind of ironic that I got the idea for this post after my computer crashed. I was pretty crushed myself, but then I thought, I finally have some time with myself and got to thinking about the things I have done in my life so far. The things I did wrong, the things I wish I tried and came up with my very own version of the 7 deadly sins.

Now, we all know the most famous ones. They are wrath, greed, sloth, pride, lust, envy, and gluttony.
But I honestly don't believe that a very large percentage of us can live a life of 60-65 (the average) years without actually committing most of these sins. I understood that there are no selfless good deeds pretty early in life. Every good deed has a motive that makes us happy, and I feel that is right. I believe in a single important concept, we all have a brain, and are all responsible to make ourselves happy.

The 7 deadly sins: (Now, most of these are derived from my personal experiences, but as general as they are, many of you should be able to relate with 'em)

• To not make long term friendships - I don't have too many, I know how lonely it can tend to get sometimes, sadness or elation.
• To not take a few risks - I wouldn't be here doing what I love and would still be stuck in Bangalore blaming he system, the city, my job and my life.
• To accept you won't fall in love - There's 2 kind of people, ones that have never fallen in love, and ones that have loved and lost. Some people in both categories give up, and force themselves to not fall in love. You guys don't know what you are missing  missing out on. I know who I missed out on, and trust me, you guys don't want to be in my position.
• To sleep too much - I am a big movie buff, so I will keep quoting movies. One great dialogue was, you will have enough time to sleep when you're dead. I wholeheartedly believe in it. You miss out on a lot in life when you excessively sleep.
• To not tell your family how much you love and miss them - This is one thing you should never stop doing. And this includes all the people in your life you love, not just relatives, every body you love is in a way or another, your family. Tell them you love them (as much as this is an instruction to help you guys, its also for me too!)
• To accept boredom / to accept crazy is always bad - Accepting boredom is among the worst things one can do. You allow incomplete results, don't have an aim, never obsess about anything, life isn't worth a lot. Never get bored, if youhave to be something be crazy, about a goal, about the stars, about the night, about love, ABOUT LIFE.
• To hurt people you love/ the people who love you - Well, I unfortunately hove done both of these things. And let me tell you, I have never felt worse about myself. Besides the fact that I miss the people I hurt so bad, it just kills me to think I could do that, and was able to justify it to myself then. This is specially for a couple of people, If you guys read this, I know you will get it, and I'm sorry, you don't know how much. I miss you, I miss the me I was with you guys, with more love in the heart, more faith in the mind, more life in my soul.

So, that's my list. These aren't in any particular order but they will haunt us, well at least me. These are mistakes that I have committed in the past, and I am unfortunately even committing right now. I cannot imagine how different my life would have been had I read this exact post and stopped committing the sins a few years ago.

I know coming up with a list like his is probably not the easiest thing to do, I mean, it took me a few days, so if you guys have 1 sin you guys think is the "deadliest", leave it in the comments.
Also, if you guys like this post and haven't checked out my previous post, please find it here - TheTruth.

P.S : You might notice a lot of these sins are catered to not missing out on things in life. That's because in life, you're gonna regret stuff you didn't do more than the stuff that you did.

Until next time,

Cheers,

Dhiraj

A lot like love...

So, as promised, I am back. Although, technically, I never left. :P

So, as I said, I left out a few people in my first post. People that made a profound stamp on my life after my teens, when they say the real life of a person starts, when you leave the home, go to college, get a job, make a life.

I figured the the first person on this list deserves an entire post of her own. So, here goes.
This is about someone whom anybody who knew me back in my college days would know.
I still remember the day like it was yesterday. I think it was the second day of college, and I hadn't brought any pencils to class(typical of me). It was the engineering graphics class. So if you don't have a pencil, you might as well not be in class. So, I say, excuse me, can I borrow your pencil, she says, okay and gives me this tiny little pencil, the lead of which broke as soon as I pressed it on the paper. Another incident I clearly remember is her yelling at me because I commented on her dress and we weren't really friends then. The next thing I remember was asking her cell number.

In typical movie fashion, boy sees girl, boy goes crazy, boy talks to girl, gets even crazier, almost asks her out, just to realise she already has a boyfriend, asks me to be her friend. Now, that is where the cliché's ended. I said okay, lets be friends, and trust me, that changed everything. I had the most amazing time in college with her, so much so that I basically don't remember much about my college other than her. Details are for some other time, because frankly I could write a book. Anyway, fast forward to end of the awesome college days, we reach Chennai together. People don't really believe when I say this, but I had an amazing time there, inspite of all the heat, the humidity, the narrow minded people, lack of fun places, lack of good food. Impossible to not enjoy in good company. From there, we move to Bangalore, where another twist awaited me. Priorities change, relationships weaken, life changes. I spend perhaps a few of the toughest months of my life there. I believe Einstein once said "I am thankful to all those who said no. It's because of them, I did it myself." I am thankful to her for saying NO at the right time, right place, in the right scenario. Then I got all the motivation I needed to crack the GRE, TOEFL and here I am, in (arguably) the best country in the world working on stuff that I really care about. She stopped living my life for me, handed me the reigns. Its just one of those things, when the time is right, the stars align, and life changes for the better.

Note: I assume you notice the lack of any first name, I think its for the best.
I called her Sweets, let us all just call her that. :)

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